First Date: some tips

Last time I wrote about how to approach for a date . Now I would like to share some ideas about the first date. First date is a make or break situation – its the chance where two strangers test their compatibility and if on the first date the comfort level between each other is not reached then its better not to think about the second one.


My friends often come to me for getting some tips before going for their first date. Now,please DONT think that they come to me because I have too much experience of dating!!! No- its not the case. They come to me because...........well, I don't know as I never asked them.

Anyways, as I was discussing about first date , what I have understood from my as well as from my friends' experiences is that there cant be any hard and fast rule while going for a first date. It depends on individual choices and interests

The most important thing is to Be Yourself. Be real. There is no point in making show offs or trying to be someone else because after few weeks your true self will come before him/her.
But yes , there are some Do's and Dont's that need to be followed.
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Places to go out- most of us opt for movies . But if the couple spend three hrs staring at the screen without any interaction then is it best option? Its better to hang out at a pub or go for bowling or visit exhibitions or concert.
There would be better chance to know each other, to communicate. However I must admit movies are definitely “safe” option as there is least possibility of being tongue tied without any topic to discuss.
For me comedy shows are the best spots for a first date. At the end of the show both of you would be having smiles on your faces. Another advantage is that from the the jokes your date laughs at can reveal a lot about the personality.


Clothes No need to follow the latest trends blindly. Just wear dresses which one carry well and looks presentable. Clothes should be clean, pressed and fit well.


Food- Its matter of individual preferences. During eating, right eating manner must be followed. Eat slowly as .After eating out it will be gentlemanly from the guy's part if the pays the bill, specially if he has called for the date. But the girls can offer to share it.


Facts to remember:
On the first date always avoid talking about the ex relationships and problems of yours as well as of your date. Don't show curiosity in learning about the past life . With time, you will learn everything.

There should be eye contact and no wandering here and there . Pay attention to your date even if after one hour you are totally bored. Its a question of respecting a human being .

One should deal with others in a polite and dignified manner .Your date will analyze you by your treatment to others. Specially the men should keep in mind that before your date don't be rude to waiters or service to other people. Be a little diplomatic rather than aggressive. Todays women are more likely to fall for a man who has more brains than brawns.

Listen to him/her . Don't interrupt while your date talk. One of my guy friend had an annoying experience of dating a girl who never let him to open his mouth- she herself went on blabbering so much!


One should be cautious about heavy drinking and smoking . Your date might not like it . And after too much drinking you cant be at your best.

Last but not the least, the question that pop ups in everyone's mind - “Shall I kiss on first date?”

Well I will discuss about it in my next blog .Meanwhile please share your views about first date and enlighten us with many more dating tips .